Start with a situation, not a label
Think of a recent moment when you wanted something different. Perhaps you wanted to share your day and the conversation ended quickly. Describe that moment without deciding you are “too sensitive” or that the other person “does not care”. A specific scene gives you a starting point you can both recognise.
From a feeling to a request
These examples are options to adapt, not rules your partner should guess. A request leaves room for an answer and an alternative.
| I need… | I could ask… |
|---|---|
| Attention | Could we talk for ten minutes without screens after dinner? |
| Affection | I would like a hug when we meet. Would you like that too? |
| Personal time | I would like an hour to myself on Saturday. How could we plan the rest of the day? |
An exercise for this week
Write three sentences in your notebook: “What happened was…”, “What I missed was…” and “I would like to try…”. Choose one request that makes sense without extra explanation. Find a time that suits you both and ask what the other person needs too.
What if the answer is no?
You can ask whether another option is possible, take time or reconsider whether the relationship fits you. An answer does not erase your need; it does not oblige the other person to accept the request either. The quiz can help you organise your thoughts, but it cannot decide for you.
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- A first number calculated from your birth date, before taking photos of your hands.
- Then your sky, a three-card spread and your observations of both palms.
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